Expectation of Surrogate Mothers after Delivery

 You probably imagine the joy and wonder of delivering a child into the world for someone else if you are considering being a surrogate. It is a remarkable trip and a kind and admirable deed to assist others in starting families. Many intended parents will congratulate you and call you "an angel" for fulfilling their wishes. All true! Even while being paired with an adoptive mother, experiencing the joys and tribulations of pregnancy with them, and delivering the baby to the parents are all priceless moments, it's crucial for surrogates to understand what to anticipate following delivery. At Earthly Angels, Sharron Wooten would like the surrogates we work with to be conscious of and to consider the sometimes-disregarded period following the delivery. Earthly Angel's parenting's relationship with our surrogates does not end in the delivery room, so keep that in mind. Before, during, and after your surrogacy process, we will be at your side.

EXPECTATIONS IN A RELATIONSHIP

Talking early on with the adoptive mother about your expectations and desires for contact, a continuing connection, and contact after the birth of their child is one of the most crucial things you can do. A pleasant trip and change after birth will be ensured by managing your respective expectations early on. Of course, each surrogate/parent relationship is unique since it involves many partners. You should address this with your adoptive mother because no two partnerships are the same and you want everyone to be on the same page right away. We assist in facilitating this first discussion and urge everyone to be open and truthful about their personal goals and specific expectations.

THE RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN SURROGATE AND PARENTS AFTER DELIVERY

The nature of your connection with the parent or parents following the birth cannot be predicted in advance. Some people become pals for life. Some people may purposefully not have as close of a relationship. Everything is dependent on what each person wants and, as with any relationship, what evolves organically over time. At Earthly Angels Surrogacy, we always want you all to let us know what you want, right away. The good news is that intended parents are typically fairly forthcoming. The bond with the surrogate develops naturally as everyone decides how much contact seems appropriate both during and after delivery. We need you to be honest with us right away so we can assist you to control everyone's expectations. Several considerations should be made:

·         The sudden loss of that same close touch after birth might be a little disconcerting due to the surrogate's tight connection with the intended parent(s) and the emotional bonding that can occur during the nine months of pregnancy and in the delivery room. That is typical.

·         Whatever the parent(s) and you choose, you and the other person(s) will always hold a special place in each other's hearts and life. Having said that, neither of you should feel compelled or under any pressure to pursue a specific form of relationship in the future. They have individual lives, just like you do.

·         The idea is to respect any limits that have been agreed set and to communicate honestly and openly about what both parties feel they need and desire along the journey.

·         In our experience, very few parents and surrogates desire to entirely cut off a touch, even though some become lifetime best pals and some do not.