Post Delivery Expectations in Surrogacy

 If you're thinking about being a surrogate, you're probably thinking about the awe and happiness of delivering a child into the world for somebody. It's been a fantastic experience, and it's a generous and lovely act of kindness to assist others in starting families. Many intended parents may tell you that you are "an angel" who is helping them realize their aspirations. All of this is correct! While being matched with intended parents, sharing the joys and challenges of pregnancy, and presenting the parents with their infant are all remarkable events, surrogates should also be aware of what to anticipate following the birth.  We want to get the surrogates we work with at Earthly Angels to be conscious of and consider the often-overlooked period following the delivery. Realize that our surrogates' connection with Earthly Angels Surrogacy does not end in the birth room. We are for you every step of the way - prior, throughout, and after your surrogacy experience.

 

Relationship Expectations

 

Among the most essential things you can do is communicate to the intended parents early on about what you want and expect in terms of communication, ongoing relationships, and remaining in touch after their kid is born. Managing your individual expectations from the start will promote a pleasant trip and post-birth adjustment. Of course, each surrogate relationship is unique, since it is comprised of all of the people involved with the connection. Because no two relationships are the same, you should address this with your prospective parents right away so that everyone is on the same page. This initial meeting is facilitated by us, and we urge everyone to be open and honest about their personal wants and expectations.

 

After Delivery Relationship between Parents and Surrogate

 

There is no one-size-fits-all blueprint for how your relationship with the parent(s) will change when the baby is born. Some people meet at a party and become lifelong friends. Others, by purpose, may not have such a deep bond. It all relies on how everyone desires and what organically evolves over time, just like any other relationship. At EarthlyAngelsConsulting.com, Sharron Wooten always wants you all to tell us what you want straight away. The good news is that most intended parents are really open. The bond with the surrogate develops naturally, with everyone determining jointly what level of contact is appropriate both throughout pregnancy and after birth. It's critical, to be honest with us right away so that we can properly manage everyone's expectations. Some of the key elements are;

 

• The tight connection a surrogate has with the chosen parent(s), as well as the deep bonding that may occur throughout the period of pregnancy and in the maternity ward, can make the unexpected loss of that same strong contact post-birth jarring. This is very normal.
• Whatever decision you and your parents choose, you will always have privileged importance to each other’s hearts and souls. However, neither of you should feel forced nor pushed to pursue a specific type of relationship in the future. They, like you, have lives of their own.
• The essential is the honest and forthright conversation about what both partners believe they need most along the road, followed by mutually agreed-upon boundaries.

 

 

While some parents and surrogates become lifetime best friends and others do not, very little desire to entirely cut off communication.